Is it wrong to expect ? was the question which was asked to me by one of my friends.
It is very difficult to answer this with a simple YES or NO.
Rather than doing that I would like to put it this way. When we perform a certain action there is bound to be a reaction. But when we anticipate a particular outcome it becomes an expectation.
This sounds confusing, Right??? Well, let me try to explain it with the help of the following narration.
When we plant a seed of say a fruit we expect it to turn into a tree over a certain period of time, and give us its supply of sweet and healthy fruits.
Now, if the seed fails to grow despite the efforts we take to ensure that it grows, by way of providing it with water and composts and the care and tendering it needs we feel disappointed.
But if the seed blooms into a beautiful tree and also manages to deliver fruits we feel joy and happiness.
A well experienced Gardner who sows the seeds understand the fact that all the seeds that he/ she had sown will not turn into a tree. Some will never grow at all, some will die in the course of growing, some will be destroyed and only very few will grow to its fullest and he/ she then will be able to reap the harvest.
So you see even when the same action is performed on all the seeds which are sowed and all the care and due diligence is taken, not every seed turns into a fully grown tree. Gardner has learned from his/ her experience that not all the seeds which he/ she sowed will grow, yet he/ she attends to them all with the same amount of love, care, dedication and tenderness.
Similarly, in our life too, not all our actions and efforts will pay off, but then this thought should not stop us from putting in our effort with same zeal enthusiasm and love in everything that we do. We must not attach our selves to the outcome, but focus on performing the deeds.
The quote from “Bhagavad Gita” has summed it very beautifully, and if understood thoroughly and applied, I am sure it will liberate all, it did that to me at least 🙂
कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन । मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भुर्मा ते संगोऽस्त्वकर्मणि ॥
You have a right to perform your prescribed duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of action. Never consider yourself to be the cause of the results of your activities, and never be attached to not doing your duty.